You’re face-to-face with an Everest-sized mountain of to-do’s and emails and projects that have slipped off-course.
Your inbox and voice mail are flooded with messages from clients and colleagues, asking with ever-increasing levels of frustration “where is that thing you promised to do??”
You feel desperation creeping in, and it sucks.
Literally, it sucks the life and energy right out of you.
No matter how hard you try – no matter how much you plan and no matter how hard or long you work – you’re continually putting out fires instead of building your business.
You want to get back on track.
You’re a good person. You have integrity.
It feels like an emotional cancer eating away at you, this awareness that you haven’t fulfilled your obligations.
Honey, I get it.
But here’s my question to you: What is that you’re really looking for right now?
Are you looking for solutions? Or are you looking for sympathy?
Getting Clear On What You Need to Cope With Overwhelm
Let’s get one thing straight: there is no one right answer.
Also, there is no wrong answer.
Whatever you’re really after right now — it’s OK to want that, and not the other thing.
We are all human. (I’m assuming.) We all, therefore, have very human needs – emotional needs, as well as physical and financial needs.
And if that’s where you are right now — if what you need is someone to prop you up a little, tell you it’s going to be OK, that you are a good person, that you can and will figure a way through — that’s perfectly fine.
And you should go ask for what you need from someone close to you. Your significant other. Your BFF. Your dog. (Cats and goldfish, not so good for this purpose, I find. Cats can really do a number on your self-esteem when you’re low, and goldfish? SO not into cuddling.)
But sugarplum, cupcake (can you tell I’m a little hungry right now?) — at some point, if you want to move through this awfulness to the other side, you’re going to have to start looking for solutions.
And that’s where I come in. Maybe.
Solutions — Not Sympathy
One of the things I insist on, before I work with anyone, is that they take advantage of my one-free-half-hour-coaching-call offer first.
The reason is simple: I might not be the best person to help you through your quandary. And you might not be the right client for me.
That freebie 30-minute call lets us both audition each other. And that’s a good thing.
But here’s what I need you to know before you rush to take me up on that free call: I don’t do sympathy.
I’m not saying I’m cold or heartless. Actually, quite the opposite. Anyone who has watched 13 Going on 30 or Deep Impact with me will testify: I’m firmly in the “wuss” camp. I feel for just about anyone going through a tough time.
But that’s empathy – which is a very different thing.
What I have found is that if I try to fulfill a client’s need for sympathy, I end up not being very effective at helping them chart and complete a course of action to solve their problems.
So, I’m not gonna let you blather and blubber on. I will gently stop you and ask, “Are you ready to fix the problem?”
And there’s no wrong answer. Maybe you’re just not ready for solutions yet.
That’s totally fine. Call me when you are.
How the Free Coaching Calls Work
- Fill out this contact form. Say something like “Yo, woman, I’d like my freebie.” Send it.
- I will email you back and ask you a few questions, aimed at clarifying what your biggest challenge is with respect to productivity, your biz, your life, etc., and figuring out a good time for our call.
- You reply.
- We schedule the call.
- At the appropriate time, I call you.
- I help you figure out how to solve your problem.
- You go solve it.
The Fine-Print My Lawyer Made Me Include
- One call per person
- I don’t do medical or legal advice.
- I am not a therapist.
- That’s …. pretty much it, actually.
And Now, For Something Completely Different Yet Still Relevant …
My friend Tea Silvestre of The Word Chef recently conducted a massive survey of solopreneurs and freelancer types. She wanted to find out what they thought worked for them, what didn’t, and what was standing in their way …
And to no one’s surprise, the #1 identified challenge to successful marketing?
Now, y’all know how I feel about that phrase “time management.” But, bygones – it’s how we think of that process of deciding how we put our time to best use, so I’ll capitulate and use it, too.
Tea’s results don’t surprise me at all — take a look at this handy-dandy infographic she cooked up:
[Source: The Word Chef]
Pretty freakin’ cool, and enlightening, don’t you think?
With that knowledge – that
over 40% of the 1,000+ respondents said their biggest challenge to successful marketing was time management – it got me thinking:
It’s time to cowgirl up.
Put my money where my mouth is.
Or, more accurately in this case, my writing where my mouth is.
Yup. I once more took up the ebook project that I had so much trouble wrestling into submission last year. And to my surprise, this time around, the ideas are just flowing like Niagara. A veritable deluge of ideas. Practical, do-able, implement-able ideas that WILL, by God, save your sanity and maybe your business, too.
And it’s coming. Very, very soon.
If you want in on that, then sign up to be one of the first to get access. You can also leave a comment to this post and just check that little box that asks whether you want to subscribe as you do – it’s that easy.
I’ll be sending out just-for-the-list-subscribers info, excerpts, tips, and exercises over the next few weeks that will not be available on this blog. You’ll also get access to some goodies I’m whipping up to accompany the ebook when it’s finally available for purchase as well as a “head’s up” when the publication date rolls around.
And In Conclusion May I Add That You Are Awesome?
So – to wrap this shindig up:
- Sympathy: nothing wrong with needing a little, now and then.
- I am not your best bet for sympathy.
- I am, however, your woman for workable solutions.
- Free half-hour coaching call – super-easy. Sign up here.
- You’re not alone. Tea’s survey tells you this.
- The Pajama Productivity ebook on getting your shit done is coming! Sign up here for all the good stuff.
- I want a cupcake.